We will probably recognize certain repeating patterns in our love choices, and Venus-Pluto aspects are particularly prone to “fated” attractions. The word fate implies that Venus-Pluto relationships are destined/pre-determined and there is a bullet with your name on it. The goddess Aphrodite (Venus) had considerable power, and she could afflict men and women with uncontrollable passions, and could bring madness and destruction on those who had offended her. When the beautiful Venus is imbued with the dark, powerful essence of Pluto the result is a seductive, emotionally intense and potentially lethal cocktail. The film, Fatal Attraction is an uncomfortable thriller about a woman’s obsession with a man she is dating. Lead actress, Glenn Close, was an astrological match made in heaven for this role. Venus conjuncts her descendant and is opposite Pluto. The actress was quoted in 2008 as saying "Men still come up to me and say, 'You scared the shit out of me.' Sometimes they say, 'You saved my marriage.'"
The tragedy of this kind of love is the need to absolutely possess another individual, and the psychological consequences can be deeply destructive. Possessiveness invariably arises from insecurity which makes the individual feel threatened by any form of separateness. ‘Till death do us part” is a phrase which many astrologers associate with Venus-Pluto contacts. For some, it can mean a life-long relationship forming and the all-or-nothing approach to love affairs symbolizes the individual who seeks intense emotional attachments. It can be difficult for them to have ‘friendship only relationships with someone they have been intimately involved with. I am not saying that it can’t happen, but a lot depends on how the relationship ended.
The ending of a relationship is something almost everyone has experienced. And people who have life-long relationships are considered to be extraordinary exceptions. The ending of a relationship can also be the opportunity to regain ourselves, and to take what we have learned from the relationship and the way in which it shaped us. Venus' symbol is the mirror and so those things that we find difficult to value in ourselves, we project them onto other people. In this light, when we examine the archetypal theme of jealousy, possessiveness and psychological manipulation used as a ploy to isolate a partner, it also reflects the insecurity which exists on both sides of the relationship. If someone is smothering us, and causing a great deal of suffering and unhappiness, we have the choice to end the relationship and begin a new life.
I remember reading the story of a woman who found it difficult to cope with her partner’s pathological jealousy. The man sought ‘treatment’ in a help centre and he was getting better at handling his emotions. However, she couldn’t cope with his change in personality and put a stop to his counselling sessions. The abusive and controlling style of his relating, often involved him wooing her with such single minded devotion and intensity, and the suicide threats contributed to the highly charged component in this relationship, and in her underlying attraction to him. One can’t help but think that underneath it all, she was deeply flattered by his behaviour. The couple needed to attend counselling sessions together, because it turned out that both people in the relationship shared deep insecurities.
The purpose of a Venus-Pluto aspect is to fully experience the highs and lows of a relationship, both emotionally and sexually. The Venus-Pluto person wouldn’t want it any other way, and will often plunge themselves into deep emotional waters. Pluto is never satisfied until it has burrowed its way right to the very bottom of our souls, but this can also lead to deep dissatisfaction in relationships; unless Venus-Pluto’s insatiable and dark appetite for love and affection is fulfilled.
Pluto introduces Venus to what lies beneath the flowers and elegant gestures of romantic courtship. This underpinning is often not ‘pretty’, and certainly not ‘fair’. For the individual with Venus-Pluto who has not yet reached the middle of life, the fate may not have made itself known. But it becomes apparent later, which is why the aspect has acquired a reputation for broken marriages.
Venus-Pluto also has a propensity for sexual triangles. These are neither fair nor wished for, but are a fact of life, generally compulsive and conductive to considerable suffering among all participants. Venus-Pluto is not cool or ‘liberated’ like Venus-Uranus, nor is it martyr like and self-sacrificing like Venus-Neptune. In terms of personality qualities, it is proud, passionate, intense and often achingly loyal. But the very intensity of its passion usually runs side by side with spite, vengeance, betrayal, loss, manipulation and a revelation of one’s own potential for the destruction of what one loves the most. By Liz Greene, The Astrology of Fate
Jennifer Love Hewitt has Venus square Pluto (exact) and she possessed a distorted view of female friends and viewed them as potential rivals (Venus) that either steal your boyfriend or take your dad away. Jennifer has managed to transform her insecurity and has made close friendships with women. Some people with Venus-Pluto learn from early childhood that all relationships must be controlled. Early loss of a loved one increases the fear of abandonment and loss, and some women might not open up completely, it's the fear of loving someone and losing them through others, divorce, or death.
Understanding the power of love, and the need for emotional depth, requires both partners to realize the relationship’s need for powerful transformation, and relating on a superficial level is never possible. Alternatively, living out the drama in more creative forms, and producing work that is deep and moving, can help channel some of this energy into more constructive outlets. Subsequently, this needs to be applied to the romantic and sexual life of the Venus-Pluto individual.
At best, Venus Pluto relationships may be painful simply because the individual does insist on real relationship and refuses to pretend whatever problems do exist aren’t actually there. This unflinching courage and honesty can raise the art of relating to a completely different level. It is surely Venus-Pluto people who really can transform themselves and their partners into princes and princesses. By Sue Tompkins, Aspects in Astrology
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