Venus-Saturn

Venus square or opposite Saturn signifies that one of the most testing learning curves in life are relationships. The contact between these two planets (love and restriction) can indicate that you hold deep feelings of being unlovable. And self-worth is based on the value that others give to you. There is also a powerful sensitivity to rejection and criticism and it depresses feelings of contentment and happiness. You build defences to protect others getting too close and are highly conscious of responsibility, duty and commitment in partnership and it is extremely difficult for you to fully let go and enjoy a relationship.

Venus-Saturn can often feel responsible for other people’s happiness and at times it can appear that you are more concerned that others feel valued and loved. Difficulty around spontaneous affection can be evident and when trying to express this part of your nature it may appear forced, unnatural and limited. The issue of over-compensation is another effect of Saturn and you may be highly attentive and possessive of a loved one.

The fear of failing at relationship and fear of rejection can make you awkward around the opposite sex, and because of defensiveness you come across as uninterested and stand-offish. When not in a permanent relationship there is a tendency to feel as if loneliness and separateness is a “permanent” and lasting, concrete situation (Saturn). A compulsive need for affection highlights deep insecurity and can often create what you fear most, others pull away when they feel they have to constantly prove their love. Gifts and material comforts can be used in exchange for love. Or the relationship can feel rather “businesslike” with goals, material aims and career as the main objective in love and not much time is left for the real art of seduction.

You feel you have to work harder than most at earning affection and with conditions attached. When in a loving relationship there is this awkward defence mechanism that causes you to raise your guard every time someone gets too emotionally close. When Saturn contacts a planet it often freezes its expression so that the development of the planet comes much later in life. You have an expectation of being let down and so you don’t show all of your emotions. Venus-Saturn is often too afraid of the risk involved in intimacy. Sometimes relationships can be a let down, burden and disappointment for various reasons. A lover can be poor financially, ill, tired and depressed. A partner may even be blamed for the source of your unhappiness.

Saturn cultivates self-sufficiency and the ability to overcome obstacles and climb the ladder of success in partnership. Your lesson in life is to learn how to love yourself without doubt. Build a relationship with love and affection that is shared equally. You respect the beauty of relationship and the time and responsibility it takes to make it work. The way in which you take ‘others’ seriously will in time be reciprocated, but only if you let them in. Don’t hold back on the very emotion and validation that you so desperately need.